One of the hardest things about moving is to making the decision to do so. Change is hard. Everyone can relate to that. The hardest part about change is the fear of the unknown. “what if I don’t like it?” “what if I hate the food?” “What if I lose my privacy?” “What if I sell my home and can’t go back again?”
These are hard questions to answer. They are legitimate fears. It would be difficult to end up in a place where you don’t feel at home. It does seem like a risky gamble. However, when talking about these fears, I often encourage my clients to see the flip side of the coin too. “What if you love it?” “What if you make new friends?” “What if that intense feeling of isolation you’re experiencing now, goes away?”
The reality is that of the hundreds of people we have assisted through this process, I’m only aware of one couple who moved back to their previous residence. This includes people who have delayed the process of selling their home “just in case”. Most everyone we have followed up with are enjoying their new surroundings and feel relieved that they made the decision to move when they did.
Your chances of settling in are much higher if you approach change with an open mind. It WILL be different. You may have to make some adjustments and put up with a few things you don’t care for. But, maybe it will be great. And maybe, you’ll be glad you made the decision to move while you are still healthy and able to be in charge. And maybe you’ll feel relieved when you no longer have to worry about house maintenance. and cleaning. and groceries. and eating by yourself.
You can mitigate the risk of being disappointed in your new surroundings by doing your homework. Ask to have a meal (or two or three) there. Stay overnight in the guest suite for a few nights. Talk to other residents, explore the local area. A good decision is an informed one.
The bottom line is that change is hard. But it can also be good, in fact, great! Don’t let fear prevent you from making a change that could ultimately provide you with a more carefree (and cared for!) lifestyle.
Jill Phipps BSW, MBA
Certified Relocation and Transition Specialist (CRTS)